Tag Archives: self-care

Relational Trauma Repair: Healing Where It Hurts Most

Many people associate trauma with a single, major event like a car crash or a natural disaster. However, for many of us, the most profound pain comes not from a single blow, but from a series of small, repeated hurts within our closest relationships. This is known as relational trauma. What is Relational Trauma? RelationalContinue reading “Relational Trauma Repair: Healing Where It Hurts Most”

Essential Skills to Overcome Mental Roadblocks

Essential Thinking Skills to Recognize and Overcome Mental Roadblocks. Imagine this… You send an important email to your manager early in the morning—a detailed project update you’re proud of. At first, you feel good. But as the hours pass and there’s no reply, you start to feeling uneasy and doubt creeps in.“Did I mess somethingContinue reading “Essential Skills to Overcome Mental Roadblocks”

Real and Long Lasting Self-Care: The Heart of True Well-Being

You wake up one morning feeling drained, even after a full night’s sleep. You think, Maybe I just need a treat. So you book a spa session, buy your favourite coffee, and scroll through travel blogs dreaming of a weekend getaway. For a moment, you feel lighter. But by evening, the heaviness returns.You wonder: Isn’tContinue reading “Real and Long Lasting Self-Care: The Heart of True Well-Being”

How to discover our Compassionate Self?

When I was about 18, I learned to ride a motorbike. It was exciting and gave me a sense of freedom. I often rode through my hometown of Melaka, exploring both the town and its outskirts. One day, while speeding through a remote area, I approached a sharp almost 90-degree turn. As I slowed down,Continue reading “How to discover our Compassionate Self?”

Meet Your Inner Critic: Friend or Foe?

When I was a young counsellor, I remember a particular session that was unnerving for me.  I was in a session with one of my married couple client. We started well talking about their improvements in their relationship thus far. They were both laughing away telling me of all the things that they have beenContinue reading “Meet Your Inner Critic: Friend or Foe?”

The Power of Self-Compassion

While we often extend compassion and kindness to others, we find it challenging to offer the same to ourselves. In our own times of suffering or pain, we can become our harshest critics. Instead of kindness, we bombard ourselves with negative thoughts: “You are not good enough,” “You are a loser,” “Nobody likes you,” “See, I told you, you are a mistake and a failure.” These self-condemnations are deeply painful.

Getting out of your Comfort Zone (Video)

If we don’t engage in new experiences, we don’t gain new perspectives. We don’t make progress; we don’t grow. Getting out of your comfort zone puts you in the growth zone. But it’s not always easy, is it? We like the familiar. We feel safe, secure, stable.

Bringing Life to Your New Year’s Resolutions: Moving Beyond Goals (Video)

Setting goals, new plans, and forming New Year’s resolutions – we are all familiar with these. Some of us are excited about new goals. Some are reluctant, remembering the “failures” of previous years. Some are nonchalant. Whichever it is, here are some tips to Bring Life to Your New Year’s Resolutions so that you can live with vitality in 2023.

Imperfect and Lovable (Video)

When we wake up in the morning, thoughts, all kinds of thoughts flood our minds. It could be leftover thoughts of unaccomplished work from last week. It could be thoughts about the worries of the future. It could be thoughts of past regrets. When these thoughts rush through our minds, we can feel defeated, drowning in these thoughts of our imperfections. We wonder, just wonder, “Am I lovable?” Totally!!!

The Power of Mindful Curiosity

What if you could transform your life by simply paying attention to what is happening right now? That is the power of mindful curiosity. Mindful curiosity is the practice of being fully present and aware of your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and surroundings, without judging or reacting to them. It is a way of cultivating a friendly and curious attitude towards yourself and your experience, instead of being caught up in worries, regrets, or distractions.